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Ramani Durvasula
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December 30
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Bikini Bodies: Learning to love myself through another woman’s day at the beach
I didn’t realize until it was a few days into my trip to Hawaii over a recent holiday that there would be bikinis involved. More specifically, there would be a bikini on my body, and the bodies of other women who were also at the beach. I had been working so hard to finish my semester at school, wrap up all the loose e
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It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
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“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by hope
of a “someday better,” with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.”
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
of a “someday better,” with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.”
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.”
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
“The emptiness of the narcissist often means that they are only focused on whatever is useful or interesting to them at the moment. If at that moment it is interesting for them to tell you they love you, they do. It’s not really a long game to them, and when the next interesting issue comes up, they attend to that. The objectification of others—viewing other people as objects useful to his needs—can also play a role. When you are the only thing in the room, or the most interesting thing in the room, then the narcissist’s charisma and charm can leave you convinced that you are his everything. The problem is that this is typically superficial regard, and that superficiality results in inconsistency, and emotions for the narcissistic person range from intense to detached on a regular basis. This vacillation between intensity and detachment can be observed in the narcissist’s relationships with people (acquaintances, friends, family, and partners), work, and experiences. A healthy relationship should feel like a safe harbor in your life. Life throws us enough curve balls in the shape of money problems, work issues, medical issues, household issues, and even the weather. Sadly, a relationship with a narcissist can be one more source of chaos in your life, rather than a place of comfort and consistency.”
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
― Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
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“Entrusting your dreams or aspirations to the wrong person could be a critical mistake, lest they mistreat or neglect them. We are not nearly as careful with our dreams as we should be.”
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
“If you are going to go to the trouble of choosing healthy food for your plate, shouldn't you also choose healthy people for your life?”
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
“Fear is the most powerful adhesive we have. Fear unites, because if two people are afraid, then even as the authentic ties that may have once bound them disappear, the fear ties are as sticky as a spider's web.”
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
“Relationships, like all human experiences, are transient; they change every day and are meant to be enjoyed in the present. When I hear people say you need to "work" at a relationship, what that often really means is just seeing through the day-to-day; listening to another person, listening to yourself, not getting stuck on hurts from the past, and not getting lost in what might come. To be in a relationship with someone you respect, care about and value is a gift, and when you take that in the day-to-day, you honor yourself and your partner each day. Eating is no different in that you can honor yourself at each meal. So much time in relationships is spent hashing the past, and arguing about things that haven't yet happened. A relationship cannot be "hoarded", just like a meal cannot be prolonged by taking home the leftovers.”
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
― You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life