Coming Out Quotes

“There’s a million reasons why someone won’t come out. What might seem like no big deal to one person is the whole universe to another.”
― Adam Silvera, The First to Die at the End

“I was proud of the way I was, but sometimes being bisexual was like running a race with your ankles tied together. If you dated a guy, people said you were really straight. If you were with a girl, you were actually gay. There was no winning. It only made telling people harder.”
― Marisa Urgo, The Gravity of Missing Things

“Sexuality isn't on a time scale.”
― Maz Maddox, Smash & Grab

“Why are you so afraid of people being happy?" he read. "Why can't you just live and let live?”
― John Boyne, The Heart's Invisible Furies

“It's been hard and messy and scary. I want you guys to care about it and what it changes for me, but without it changing us.”
― Racquel Marie, Ophelia After All

“I'm demi," I say. Then stupidly, I clarify "-sexual. Not demiromantic or a demigirl or a demigod like Hercules." [...]
"I didn't think you were coming out to me as the mythological hero Hercules."
"Sorry, I don't always know what other people know about the asexual spectrum.”
― Alison Cochrun, Kiss Her Once for Me

“Do they miss me?

Does it count if the person they miss isn’t actually me? ​​​”
― Anita Kelly, Something Wild & Wonderful

“If and/or when you decide to come out is entirely up to you. No one gets to decide that except you. Inevitably some will say you “owe it to others to come out”. While your coming out can benefit others in profound ways, that is not for anyone to decide except you. And remember: Coming out is an ongoing process, with stages that take time and discernment. This is a critical foundation upon which to begin answering this question.”
― Jamie Arpin-Ricci

“There's something about you I like.' She shook her head, pressing on. 'All I care about is that you drive me wild and I can't stop thinking about you. And if there’s a chance that you feel something similar, I’m going to take it, because God knows, my life isn’t going to be this exciting again!”
― Charlotte Anne Hamilton, The Breath Between Waves

“That's really the worst part about coming out. You don't do it just once. You have to do it again and again, your whole life.”
― Daryl Banner, Football Sundae

“Why couldn't Ireland have been like this when I was a boy?”
― John Boyne, The Heart's Invisible Furies

“And in a world where visible representations of asexual people are really hard to come by, the power you have as an out individual is enormous. You might be the only asexual person someone else has ever met or seen. You might be the first person to clearly explain the ace experience to someone. Your visibility might change the way someone else sees their own identity. That's big.”
― Cody Daigle-Orians, I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life

“I didn't need to come out ot her. I never said those declarative words - and I didn't even know them at the time. Vocabulary like trans would come much later in my life. All I needed was to hear the pride in Mama's voice as she called me beautiful.

Sometimes the things that go unsaid are more powerful than anything that can be uttered aloud: emotions that pierce your soul, moments of connection that mean so much more than binary answers and direct responses.”
― Geena Rocero, Horse Barbie

“Some straight kid who barely knows me, advising me on coming out. I kind of have to roll my eyes.”
― Becky Albertalli, Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda

“Jaime and I have always believed that a parent holds a sacred office. And we will never abdicate or resign from that office just because things get difficult.”
― Benjamin Alire Sáenz, Aristotle and Dante Dive into the Waters of the World

“They don't look at me or talk to me. I don't get it. I'm the one who just came out to them. I'm the one who is broken up inside. Why am I not the one being comforted? Why is no one telling me it's okay?”
― Abdi Nazemian, Like a Love Story

“Honestly, Ignac, I look back at my life and I don't understand very much of it. It seems like it would have been so simple now to have been honest with everyone, especially Julian.”
― John Boyne, The Heart's Invisible Furies

“What I would not have given to be that young at this time and to be able to experience such unashamed honesty.”
― John Boyne, The Heart's Invisible Furies

“The thing about coming out is you're so focused on making sure who you are doesn't hurt or change your relationship with your loved ones that you never really think about yourself.”
― Julian Winters, Right Where I Left You

“There's more than one way to run. Sometimes, not moving an inch is the worst kind of running.”
― Jae, Not the Marrying Kind

“You'll know, even as I use the word "Evan," that Evan had a name before this. It's a name I won't tell you. To utter it would be to disrespect all the work he has done to find his way to Evan. The more you get to know him, the more you'll see the pronouns, and the names, don't matter at all. Evan teaches me that there is an endless quality to truth; the external details constantly shift as we move closer to the emotional centers of our lives. And you can try to explain it, but it will be no easier than explaining infinity. Not everything can be explained. Some things must be accepted.”
― Jessi Hempel, The Family Outing: A Heartfelt Memoir of Coming Out, Family Transformations, and Self-Discovery

“No girls until after your GCSEs." I'm so startled that I just gape at her as she hands it back. I'm used to it-it's what she always tells Rosh and me: No boys until after your GCSEs- but she said it. She may have waited until my father wasn't in the room, but she did. I heard her say it and I want to grab her
and hug her because I don't think I've ever loved her so much.
Girls.
Maybe she's coming around after all.”
― Tanya Byrne, Afterlove

“Charlotte swallowed hard, forcing her spine up straight and clasping her hands together tighter to make them stop shaking. “That I’m a lesbian.”
― Haley Cass, Those Who Wait

“it’s hard to really know how that applies to your own parents. Like, you
read about these gay kids with really churchy Catholic parents, and the
parents end up doing PFLAG and Pride Parades and everything. And then
you hear about parents who are totally fine with homosexuality, but can’t
handle it when their own kid comes out. You just never know.”
― Becky Albertalli

“Coming out from Yourself is a glorious victory of victories and enlightening knowledge.”
― Ehsan Sehgal

“God, how much easier it would be, I felt, if coming out were something that just happened to me. For queerness to seek me out, and not the other way around. To be a passive observer in my personal journey than to participate in my own life.”
― Grace Perry, The 2000s Made Me Gay: Essays on Pop Culture

“Closets are vertical coffins.”
― Harper Bliss, About That Kiss

“If you want to really hurt you parents, and you don't have the nerve to be gay, the least you can do is go into the arts. I'm not kidding. The arts are not a way to make a living. They are a very human way of making life more bearable. Practicing an art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow, for heaven's sake. Sing in the shower. Dance to the radio. Tell stories. Write a poem to a friend, even a lousy poem. Do it as well as you possible can. You will get an enormous reward. You will have created something.”
― Kurt Vonnegut, A Man Without a Country”
― Kurt Vonnegut, Förvandlingen, 2 B R 0 2 B och Legenden om Slummerdalen: Tre klassiska noveller av F. Kafka, K. Vonnegut och W. Irving.

“It's hard for my autism to be a secret, given the way my mom tells people left and right. It's not that I need it to be one; I just want to tell people myself.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“My grip loosened on the wheel. Or was it, the world?

It was such a small, passing moment. Which is where many of our monumental shifts happen. It is not the grand stage, but the quiet kitchen, the silent dining room, the bedrooms, the drives home, where gayness, my gayness, reveals itself.

Drag shows are spectacles. Television shows provide a comforting illusion that life progresses. That we no longer need to live in fear. But we do. We do live in fear.”
― Taylor Brorby, Boys and Oil: Growing Up Gay in a Fractured Land