Emotional Intelligence Quotes

“Anyone can learn the skill set of Emotional Intelligence, but that won't solve an empath's biggest problem, which is the need to remove pain belonging to others from your aura.”
― Rose Rosetree, Empath Empowerment in 30 Days

“Anyone can become angry-- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way-- this is not easy.”
― Aristotle

“Mind Quotient (Sonnet 1209)

Throw away all stupidity of IQ and EQ,
They are but stain upon mind's honor.
To quantify intelligence is stupid,
To quantify emotion is even stupider.

When the feeble psyche seeks reassurance,
It craves comfort in all sorts of nonsense.
Most times it resorts to the supernatural,
Exhausting that it resorts to pseudoscience.

It is no mark of mental progress to replace
supernatural bubble with pseudoscience bubble.
No matter how they try to sell you security,
Know that, human potential is unquantifiable.

IQ is no measure of intelligence,
EQ is no measure of emotion either.
But craving for IQ and EQ is symptom
of a shallow and feeble character.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science

“Life is a trade off. You can't have it all.
So choose what you chase.”
― Dr. Sandeep Atre/डॉ. संदीप अत्रे, Baat Jazbaat Ki/बात जज़्बात की : apni kuchh Nazmon aur Ghazlon ke zariye/अपनी कुछ नज़्मों और ग़ज़लों के ज़रिये

“Recently, I read a stack of old journals I had stored in a box. They held the musings of different versions of myself stretching from age nine to 29. As I read through them, I realized how foreign the words on those pages felt. I didn't hear my own voice in those journals, but rather someone else's; someone distinctly different from the person I am today.

And I realize that who I was is not who I am. Who I am is a state of consciousness that changes with time and experience. More than that, it changes with every wave of emotion as it comes and goes. To be is a fluid experience.

The joy of being is learning how to embrace that flow.”
― Elizabeth Carlton

“La empatía se construye sobre la conciencia de uno mismo; cuanto más abiertos estamos a nuestras propias emociones, más hábiles seremos para interpretar los sentimientos.”
― Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

“When we control our emotions, we harness
the power of cognitive reasoning.”
― Scott Shumway, The Invisible Four-letter Word: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want in Life.

“Building emotional agility:

1. “Label your thoughts and emotions”

My coworker is wrong—he makes me so angry becomes I’m having the thought that my coworker is wrong, and I’m feeling anger.

2. Accept them

“The anger was a signal that something important was at stake and that he needed to take productive action. Instead of yelling at people, he could make a clear request of a colleague or move swiftly on a pressing issue. The more Jeffrey accepted his anger and brought his curiosity to it, the more it seemed to support rather than undermine his leadership.”

3. Act on your values

“We encourage leaders to focus on the concept of workability: Is your response going to serve you and your organization in the long term as well as the short term? Will it help you steer others in a direction that furthers your collective purpose? Are you taking a step toward being the leader you most want to be and living the life you most want to live?”
― Susan David, Self-Awareness

“Test the other person. See how he responds to you when you don't give him what he wants. If you don't see consistent changes in the way he thinks, acts, and interacts with you and others, don't for a minute believe his words or his profuse tears. (Proverbs 26:23-24) Jesus said, "Produce fruit in keeping with repentance." (Matthew 3:8.)”
― Leslie Vernick, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

“Contrary to what destructive people will say, the most loving thing we can do for them is hold them accountable for their actions. This indeed may cost us sacrifice and suffering. We do this not only for our benefit but with the hope that as we draw a line in the sand and say "no more" they will wake up to their own sinfulness and repent.”
― Leslie Vernick, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

“IQ is no measure of intelligence,
EQ is no measure of emotion either.
But craving for IQ and EQ is symptom
of a shallow and feeble character.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science

“It is impossible to be spiritually mature when we are emotionally unhealthy.”
― Leslie Vernick, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

“I am yet to find a happy computer, despite being the epitome of rationality. Likewise, I am yet to find a civilized animal, despite being the epitome of sentimentality. What this means is that, only with the right balance between rationality and sentimentality there can exist a magical creature called human, brimming with infinite potential - but mess up the balance, and you are stuck with either a cold mechanical world run by rationality or a red-hot uncivilized world run by brutality - both equally unfit for preserving civilized life.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Insan Himalayanoğlu: It's Time to Defect

“Teachers who possess strong emotional intelligence skills are better equipped to create a positive and supportive learning environment.”
― Sohail Verma, The Emotional Classroom: How Emotional Intelligence Transforms Learning

“Don't risk what you can't get back
for what you want to get up front.”
― Dr. Sandeep Atre, Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom : Perspectives & Reflections

“My Greatest lesson has been the ART OF SELF~CONTROL! I had to learn to maintain my composure in times of crisis of all sorts! Once I removed myself from the situation either physically and or mentally I was able to clear my mind! Thereafter, I could see the bigger picture and objectively determine how to remedy the situation! Therefore, I say CALM YOUR EMOTIONS, WHEN EMOTIONS ARE HIGH INTELLIGENCE IS LOW”
― Constance Delores Burrell, KYNG SUPA NOVA'S ADVENTURES OPERATION COVID-19: WITH FAMILY WE CAN CONQUER ALL

“Memories are meaningless without emotion, and aside from love and drugs, nothing spurs an emotional reaction like music.”
― Pete Trainor, Electrasy: Calling All The Dreamers

“Allow yourself to be healed and renewed through detachment.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Between hearts, there's a magic string - that's how one hears the other sing.”
― SCMontenegro

“I used the role of fight-or-flight in human survival as an excuse to justify my addiction to depression and anxiety; I saw them as survival traits, believing that I would perish without them. However, the key here is that fight-or-flight is an automatic physiological reaction, making it often more dependent on instinct, not initiative. When a person starts getting stressed, or when their fight-or-flight response is activated, they don’t carefully evaluate whether or not this is something worth getting anxious about; they just get anxious automatically. Having their brains become numb, their hearts palpitate, and their adrenaline course their veins just happens automatically; you don’t intentionally control that. That is what makes the woman so blank and emotionless—it is her, or my, strict and rigid dependency on fight-or-flight! By being so deeply contingent on an automatic instinct, I had little time for true introspection. It is like the instinct controlled me, instead of the other way around.”
― Lucy Carter, For the Intellect

“Wishing a Happy 'New You' to this year.”
― Dr. Sandeep Atre/डॉ. संदीप अत्रे, Baat Jazbaat Ki/बात जज़्बात की : apni kuchh Nazmon aur Ghazlon ke zariye/अपनी कुछ नज़्मों और ग़ज़लों के ज़रिये

“Being emotional within your finances today can kill your future income”
― David Angway

“With self-awareness, a basic definition tells us, “You know what you are feeling and why—and how it helps or hurts what you are trying to do.” Other key points: you can align your self-image on how others see you; you have an accurate sense of your limits and strengths, and so a more realistic self-confidence; you are clear about your sense of purpose and values, which helps you be more decisive.

Cognitive scientists call this self-reflexive attention “meta-awareness.” We can watch our thoughts and feelings as they come and go, and know where our attention focuses—and change that focus if we want. This deliberate control of the beam of our attention is a mental skill. Think of our mind as a sort of gym, a place where we can practice in ways that will bulk up our mental capacities.

The research on flow, you may recall, revealed that the person’s focus while in flow was 100 percent. They were one-pointed, fully present to the moment. Such absorption indicates meta-awareness, that ability to monitor and manage your own focus. But we don’t need that diamond-like beam of focus all the time: a stronger muscle for attention boosts the odds that we can get into an optimal state.

Focus—paying attention where and when we want to—has endless uses. Deliberate concentration on whatever may be important to us at the moment lets us do our best; being distracted worsens our effort. Having control of our attention is for the mind what cardiovascular fitness is for the body; just as a fit heart enhances any physical task, full focus enhances whatever we do.”
― Daniel Goleman, Optimal: How to Sustain Personal and Organizational Excellence Every Day

“She looked down when she laughed that time. Something about the shy aversion of her eyes and the sound of her laugh was making me...feel...something. But my brain kept confusing whatever overwhelming feeling this was with a desire to squish her, as if I could find an outlet for this annoying emotion by just taking her face in my hands and squeezing. I managed to resist.”
― Harley LaRoux, Her Soul to Take

“Blaming yourself makes you feel in control of a situation. It makes you feel safe. If it’s Eton’s fault for this, then your brain tells you that he has the power. That’s scary. If he has the power, he could do it again, and it’s out of your control. So your brain twists things so you don’t feel so vulnerable. If you did this, then you could’ve stopped it. You can control whether it happens again. But you know that’s not true.”
― Adriana Locke, Fling

“Fear is a pesky little parasite that feeds on those so strong”
― Lee Papa

“In essence, use logic to guide your actions, but don't neglect the emotional undercurrents that drive people's behavior.”
― Damian Mingle

“Regulated responses to our wants can reduce conflict and promote harmony. As we learn to prioritize and sacrifice less-valuable wants, a sequence of favorable reactions impact our lives and the lives of others in rewarding and positive ways.”
― Scott Shumway, The Invisible Four-letter Word: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want in Life.

“Consideration is about being curious while also being courteous.”
― Scott Shumway, The Invisible Four-letter Word: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want in Life.

“Remembering what we really want creates a constancy in purpose, which further leads to consistency in character.”
― Scott Shumway, The Invisible Four-letter Word: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want in Life.