Intimacy In Marriage Quotes

“Beauty is an illusion, created by Mother Nature to drive the human species in the path of reproduction. In reality, beauty is irrelevant to human life, especially in a relationship. What you today perceive as beautiful and special, over time, becomes not so special. That’s how the human brain works. It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Sometimes I learn something about you because you tell me: your history, your family, your life before we met. But just as often my understanding comes from watching you, intuiting, and making associations. You present the facts, I connect the dots, and an image is formed. Your singularities are gradually revealed to me, openly or covertly, intentionally or not. Some places inside of you are easy to reach; others are encrypted and laborious to decode. Over time, I come to know your values, and your fault lines. By witnessing how you move in the world, I come to know how you connect: what excites you, what presses your buttons, and what you’re afraid of. I come to know your dreams and your nightmares. You grow on me. And all this, of course, happens in two directions.”
― Esther Perel

“The most crucial thing to know about true love is that, it is not something you can find, rather you need to build it with the person in whose eyes you see your soul.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Completely loyal, completely unconditional. And I laughed at her, because even I knew that love is not like that. Love is a delicate thing that needs to be cosseted and protected. Love is not robust and love is not unyielding. Love can crumble under a few harsh words, or be tossed away with a handful of careless actions. Love isn't a steadfast dog at all; love is more like a pygmy mouse lemur. Yes, that's exactly what love is: a tiny, jittery primate with eyes that are permanently peeled open in fear.”
― Andrew Davidson , The Gargoyle

“It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Beauty is irrelevant to human life, especially in a relationship. What you today perceive as beautiful and special, over time, becomes not so special. That’s how the human brain works. It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“As with all semantic difficulties, the answer can only be arbitrary. What matters is that we know what kind of union we are talking about when we speak of love. Do we refer to love as the mature answer to the problem of existence, or do we speak of those immature forms of love which may be called symbiotic union?”
― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

“Each bump or challenge in our intimate connections offers us a perfect opportunity to deepen our level of intimacy, while allowing us to grow and evolve both individually and together.”
― Tracie Sage, The Missing Manual to Love, Marriage and Intimacy: A Proactive Path to Happily Ever After

“Love is not the primeval surge of libidinal lust that a person receives when meeting a suitable partner for the first time. Love in the truest sense of the term is born much later in a relationship, when both sides get to the know the truest selves of each other.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Intimacy is about sharing something with your spouse that you don’t share with anybody else. It’s letting him in. It’s laughing together. And it’s also feeling that deep hunger for each other!”
― Sheila Wray Gregoire, Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage: Because a Great Relationship Doesn't Happen by Accident

“As women, our ability to multitask can be a blessing, but it becomes a huge liability when we take on too much and then use our busyness as an excuse to get out of our intimacy responsibilities.”
― Ngina Otiende, The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as New Bride

“... Nor was it the normal, portentous intimacy of twenty-year-olds: [...] although we were at the age when one always has the need, instinct, and immodesty of inflicting on one another everything that swarms in one's head and elsewhere (and this is an age that can last long, but ends with the first compromise)...”
― Primo Levi, The Periodic Table

“Emotional intimacy is something we all deeply crave in relationships. It's that feeling you’re really understood and loved by another not in spite of, but along with your imperfections. It’s a deep sense of knowing, feeling “gotten” by someone who really matters to you.

It’s arguably the best part of being in a relationship. And it’s extremely rare.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Why drink from another's well?
When you have your own
Inner-ocean?”
― Jallaludin Rumi

“Getting to know your partner better and sharing your inner self with your mate will always evolve.”
― Michael Barbarulo, 50+ Ways to Keep Drama Out of Your Relationship

“Often couples are deeply connected, fascinated really, with each other in the first weeks of the
relationship but as years pass we build familiarity (which is a good thing) and our curiosity wanes.
We get out of practice staying curiously engaged. Asking strong follow up questions is one place to start that shift.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Couples who stay curious about each other, engaged in learning about their partners, open to growing together fare better long term. They're able to adapt to changes and navigate bumps in the road with resilience. 

And they maintain passion and intimacy by fueling a sense of discovery and space for fascination, mystery, and surprise.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“To grow your ability to cultivate intimacy with others, begin by growing your intimacy
with yourself.”
― Gina Senarighi, Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples

“Pursue intimacy not just sex.”
― Greg Gorman & Julie Gorman, WELCOME TO YOUR MARRIED FOR A PURPOSE REBOOT FACILITATOR’S GUIDE: A handbook to assist Married for a Purpose Certified Coaches in leading personal one-on-one Reboot Retreats for Married Couples.