Long Term Relationship Quotes

“Individual Desirability / Aggregate Desirability = Your Desirability Ratio

The higher a relationship’s Desirability Ratio, the more stable a relationship will be. If a relationship’s Desirability Ratio drops below one for either partner, the relationship becomes very likely to dissolve.

To put that in other words: When your partner is much more desirable to you than their “league” would suggest, and when this dynamic is mutual (i.e., each partner values the other more than society on average values that other partner), your relationship will be uniquely stable. However, if either partner values the other less than that person would be valued on an open market, the relationship becomes unstable.”
― Malcolm Collins, The Pragmatist's Guide to Relationships

“There is no such thing as a relationship without a contract. All relationships are governed by contracts, be they implied or explicit. Relationship contracts are not legal contracts, though sometimes societal expectations of relationships get worked into law (this can come into play in situations like divorce as well as the legal establishment and relinquishment of paternity).

The society in which you grew up provided you with a set of template contracts to which you implicitly agree whenever you enter a relationship, even a non-sexual one. For example, a common clause of many societal template contracts among friends involves agreeing to not sleep with a friend's recent ex. While you may never explicitly agree to not sleep with a friend's ex, your friend will absolutely feel violated if they discover that you shacked up with the person who dumped them just a week earlier.

Essentially, these social contracts tell an individual when they have “permission” to have specific emotional reactions. While this may not seem that impactful, these default standards can have a significant impact on one’s life. For example, in the above reaction, a friend who just got angry out of the blue at a member of their social group would be ostracized by others within the group while a friend who became angry while citing the “they slept with my ex” contract violation may receive social support from the friend group and internally feel more justified in their retaliatory action. To ferret out the contractual aspects of relationships in which you currently participate, think through something a member of that relationship might do that would have you feeling justifiably violated, even though they never explicitly agreed to never take such action.

This societal system of template contracts may have worked in a culturally and technologically homogenous world without frequent travel, but within the modern world, assumed template contracts cause copious problems.”
― Simone Collins, The Pragmatist's Guide to Relationships

“Our shared laughter has etched lines on our faces, each one a testament to the joy we've found together.”
― Rendi Ansyah, Beyond the Bouquet: A Symphony of Love in Fifty Movements

“A bond that stands the test of time is the truest testament to love.”
― Rendi Ansyah, Beyond the Bouquet: A Symphony of Love in Fifty Movements

“Every moment together is a chapter in our love story.”
― Rendi Ansyah, Beyond the Bouquet: A Symphony of Love in Fifty Movements

“I Am Here (The Sonnet)

Look into my eyes,
I wanna listen to your silence.
Tell me of the storms unpassed,
I wanna be your expression express.
Tell me what you have been through,
Tell me of the heartaches unhealed.
Speak the pain you could never utter,
I am here, I am near, you are my priority!
I cannot promise you all the happiness,
Nor can I promise you eternal peace.
But if and when the sky crashes,
I shall be your human shield.
It's okay if you come late to me.
I am here, I am near, I have come early.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Himalayan Sonneteer: 100 Sonnets of Unsubmission

“The most significant aspect of any long-term sustained relationship is trust; not even love is stronger; one, can still feel love but it is different after betrayal. The love you now feel, is based on history and family. Hence, you can still love someone without trust.”
― RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 2004

“She is Crown (The Sonnet)

Love her for all she is,
Not just when she can please.
She is the crown of your life,
Not the fly of your jeans.

Love her for all she is,
Even when she hates herself.
If you can't be the rock to her,
It is you who needs help.

Love her for all she is,
Be the cushion to her failure.
While all celebrate her triumph,
You celebrate her even in disaster.

Death can't do you part if you're never two.
Love is what turns two minds into one truth.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Himalayan Sonneteer: 100 Sonnets of Unsubmission

“I am here, I am near, you are my priority.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Himalayan Sonneteer: 100 Sonnets of Unsubmission

“Love is not about finding someone,
Love is about finding yourself in someone.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science

“Laughter is love's symphony echoing through the years.”
― Rendi Ansyah, Beyond the Bouquet: A Symphony of Love in Fifty Movements