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Quiet by Susan Cain
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Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking is about being an introvert in today's society.

Confession time: I'm a tremendous introvert. I know you're all thinking something along the lines of "What? A guy who reads constantly and writes over a hundred book reviews a year is an introvert?" Shocking but true. I could easily go days without human contact. At parties, I'm the guy hanging out near the food or snooping through the host's books or medicine cabinet. I could go into more detail but since I have a feeling most Goodreaders are also introverts, I'll skip it.

Basically, the book is a flashing neon sign that says it's okay to be an introvert. Susan Cain chronicles her own struggles as an introvert, as well as showing how America went from being about character to about personality, right around the time movies and TV started getting popular. It covers introverts in all areas, like corporate America, and how introverts are treated in other societies. There's a lengthy section on raising introvert kids, which a lot of parents could use instead of shoving their kids into the shark-infested extrovert waters.

Honestly, I could have used this book as a teenager, when people were constantly badgering me to go out more. Scientific discoveries and works of art are rarely made by people who are constantly talking. Cain covers topics like being an introvert in the business world, where people who talk the loudest get their way more often than not, something I see every day in cubeland.

Actually, the book gave me insight into the behavior of some of my family. Until he retired, my dad was crabbier than Red Foreman all the time. I used to think he was just an angry asshole but now I think he was an introvert with nowhere to unwind. Now that he's retired, I see how much alike we are. He's actually pretty friendly as long as the visits don't go too long.

Susan Cain's writing style is engaging. I felt the repeated examples may have padded the book a bit.
While I felt validated by reading it, sometimes it felt like a book a kid named Matthew, who happened to be missing a finger, wrote about how nine-fingered Matthews are the best at everything. I liked it but most of what Cain says seemed pretty obvious. There are no mind-blowing revelations for introverts within. I do recommend extroverts read it, however. 3.5 out of 5 stars.
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Trudi I loved this book and found some of the examples she used on current studies being done on human behaviour fascinating, especially about group think, group dynamics and juries. I could have read a whole book on how juries behave alone.


message 2: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent The group dynamics stuff was pretty interesting. I see it in meetings every day at work.


Trudi Oh goodness, me too. I also meant to say that's really interesting about your dad. I know I can become a stabby bear if I don't get enough down time to recharge. Great review!


message 4: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent I've learned to be more assertive in meetings to make sure we don't go down the wrong road but it's still a struggle.

I try to get recharge time in the middle of the workday by reading through my lunch break but it seems a lot of people would rather die than let me enjoy some silence.

Thanks!


Matthias Great review, pretty much came away with the same thoughts after this book. But what's up with your fascination with medicine cabinets? As an introvert myself I didn't get that one.


message 6: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent It has more to do with being a snoop than an introvert.


message 7: by Jason (new)

Jason Koivu "He's actually pretty friendly as long as the visits don't go too long."

Yep, I can relate. After a while of having company over, I become the "you don't have to go home, but you can't stay here" guy.


message 8: by Brandon (new)

Brandon I've been wanting to read this book for a while. I'm also painfully introverted - almost destroyed a few friendships because of it. I'll have to give this to people.


message 9: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Brandon wrote: "I've been wanting to read this book for a while. I'm also painfully introverted - almost destroyed a few friendships because of it. I'll have to give this to people."

I keep thinking about giving it to a few people I know. "The book says I'm allowed to go off and ponder the mysteries of the universe while everyone else is watching the superbowl..."


message 10: by Meigan (new)

Meigan I love a good juicy medicine cabinet. And bathroom drawers.


message 11: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Meigan wrote: "I love a good juicy medicine cabinet. And bathroom drawers."

Bathroom drawers are good too.


carol. Dan wrote: "It has more to do with being a snoop than an introvert."

He's comparing stashes.


message 13: by Lata (new) - rated it 4 stars

Lata Agreed that the book isn't revelatory if one is an introvert. But I wanted to give a copy to everyone who always said I was shy and quiet as if being those things was a disease.


message 14: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Lata wrote: "Agreed that the book isn't revelatory if one is an introvert. But I wanted to give a copy to everyone who always said I was shy and quiet as if being those things was a disease."

Yeah, a lot of people I know need a copy of this.


message 15: by Forrest (new)

Forrest Does the book add anything significant that isn't in her TED talk? I liked the TED talk, but don't want to read the book if the talk covered 80% of what's in the book anyway. I found the talk validating, being an introvert myself (or, at least, one who "recharges" by being alone), but don't want to spend the time if I'm not going to be blown away by insights above and beyond the talk.


message 16: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent I haven't watched the TED talk. I imagine it's a distilled version of this though.


reading is my hustle your review reminded me of this recent op-ed. the comments are worth a read, too.


carol. Interesting link, Elizabeth. I found this comment especially telling (and suspect Dan can relate):

"The angst expressed in the article is so typical of Midwesterners and their need to be "nice." It would have been helpful if the author noted her Midwestern upbringing, since I doubt few native New Yorkers are struggling with similar guilt."

I can't speak for NYC-ers, but as a Midwesterner, I do think "being nice" is one of the reasons introverts have to go to the wrong side of the scale (why aren't people who keep quiet in an elevator considered to be "being nice?" I'm not inflicting my ideas on anyone :))


message 19: by Gail (last edited Oct 02, 2016 05:07PM) (new)

Gail Winfree Dan, I'm so much like you. I prefer being with animals over people. I've worked my entire life with people, but never felt comfortable being around them. I've even grown to be more introvert, tired of all the small talk, meaningless conversation of people trying to outdo each other. I don't have much in common with most of these folks. I guess that's the good thing about social media. We can have contact without having contact. Good review. It got me thinking. Thanks.


message 20: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent You're welcome.


message 21: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Carol. wrote: "I can't speak for NYC-ers, but as a Midwesterner, I do think "being nice" is one of the reasons introverts have to go to the wrong side of the scale (why aren't people who keep quiet in an elevator considered to be "being nice?" I'm not inflicting my ideas on anyone :)) "

Indeed. How is small talk neither party cares about better than thoughtful silence?


carol. Right? My take is that some people are as uncomfortable with silence as I am with small talk.


message 23: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent I definitely agree. People aren't going to cease to exist if they stop making noise.


message 24: by Tracy (new)

Tracy St Claire Dan --Bro -- you can't define your introvert nature by how you do at parties. If you were an introvert you wouldn't be there. That was one of my gripes with the book, actually. I cut out the small talk problem altogether by not going to parties, or church, or sitting near people at a doctor's office.


message 25: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Sometimes going to a party is the lesser of two evils.


Stephanie *Eff your feelings* I loved this book as well (I read it awhile back).

I'm also, shockingly, an introvert. Being a visual artist, something that is usually an introverted action, I somehow got thrown into street art (drawing people from life, sitting right in front of you). This means I have the same inane conversations, over and over, with a stranger every ten minutes or so. That part of it is hell, though I love the drawing part quite a bit.

In some ways it's helped me open up and exercise my extroverted side. But, jebus, it can make me lose the will to live sometimes.


message 27: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent I'd be tired of it after the second or third customer.


Stephanie *Eff your feelings* Dan wrote: "I'd be tired of it after the second or third customer."

I usually am.


message 29: by Praveen (new) - added it

Praveen An engaging review Dan! I liked it very much.


message 30: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Thanks!


Erin the Avid Reader ⚜BFF's with the Cheshire Cat⚜ Reading your review made me smile so much. As an introverted (and kinda shy) teen your review made me relieved that there are other people out there like me. I, too could go days without other people around, and at parties I'd also be near the food (then again, going to a house party that lacks a lot of books is usually not a party worth going to. Even then I don't go to many parties).

Wonderful analysis of the book, by the way. Very succinct and acumen. I just love this. :)


message 32: by Dan (new) - rated it 3 stars

Dan Schwent Thanks! I'm always suspicious when someone doesn't have a lot of books to snoop through. Anyway, give this book a read. I think it'll make you feel a lot better about things.


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