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Off Sides by Sawyer Bennett
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bookshelves: dnf, personal-preference

** spoiler alert ** DNF at pretty much first chapter.
It’s me, not you.
This is an absolute personal preference.

I’m not from the upper class, if anything i may belong to lower middle class, so I don’t roll on trust fund money. I am not awfully smart, I never passed philosophy 101. I’m on the average side of intelligence.

I’m also not stunningly breathtakingly pretty or beautiful. No man has looked at my face and forgotten how to speak. Very few has looked back twice or admired.

So tell me something, does that give your gorgeous, polished, superficially smart trust fund babe a right to insult me? Simply cause she feels like it? Simply cause she feels she’s superior?

I don’t know any theories by “Ockham’s Razer” to stun you to silence. Fuck! I don’t even know who or what Ockham’s Razer IS. So I should slowly fade to background while your buddy insults me and the others find amusement out of it. YOU find amusement out of it until it’s too much too obvious and harsh, then you just feel a little embarrassed but decide it’s easier to let me cop it than argue with the vicious buddy of yours? Until you see me, and is struck by insta something I have no value?

That’s exactly what the hero did.

This is his ex to heroine who’s an waitress:

“The table goes silent then I hear Angeline say in her most affronted voice, “Excuse me. But we are in the middle of an important discussion. Do you think it’s appropriate to just interrupt us with the assumption we are ready for you?”

Just because she was doing her job!

And THIS is hero’s reaction:

“Everyone starts laughing hysterically, myself excluded. But I do give an inner smirk to myself and just shake my head. Angeline can dress someone down and make them feel about three inches tall in just a matter of seconds. It’s a true art form of the criminally wealthy and insanely narcissistic.”

Oh! What a gentleman! He doesn’t laugh AT the heroine loudly, but he laughs nevertheless.

So what if this was a 40 year old single mum or dad who dropped out from high school? And didn’t have the wit or energy to answer back to his ex? He would have deserved this treatment from hero’s ex and it’d be ok for hero to smirk to himself?

The heroine had to prove her worth in intellect first, then had to be stunningly attractive for hero to notice.

I just couldn’t get past that. Yes, he left a $50 tip, BECAUSE she charmed him with her wit, NOT because he genuinely felt guilty for his companion’s behaviour. Yes, they have an HEA, he loves her, they’re soulmates. But to me he’s nothing but an ugly frat boy blowing daddy’s money.

I’m 30 years old, I love fluff in romance but at the same time I refuse to accept glittery foil as gold.

Respect needs to be earned as a person however minimum respect is something a human being deserve! Be that a waiter, a sales clerk or a tradie. You treat them as your equal as a human being.

Hero failed to give minimum respect to a waiter at a restaurant, I refuse to give him any respect as he hasn’t earned it. I’m out.
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Reading Progress

Started Reading
January 1, 2018 – Finished Reading
October 24, 2018 – Shelved as: personal-preference
October 24, 2018 – Shelved as: dnf
October 24, 2018 – Shelved

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message 1: by boogenhagen (new)

boogenhagen That kind of behavior in an H should get him dumped like the gutter spawn he is. *sigh* Great review! off to avoid this one..


✴ Cindy ✴  Thanks for the warning. I'm marking as 'No'.


message 3: by Naksed (new)

Naksed BAAAARRRRRFFFFF That would be a dealbreaker for me too. To treat someone as an inferior because they are simply from a different social or educational class, or at least you perceive them as such, is something I could never stand from a person whether they are fictional or real. Hope this asshole eats apples.




message 4: by StMargarets (new)

StMargarets Yeah - I judge heroes/heroines who are rude to waiters or try to humiliate anyone in a service industry. This guy did not pass the test.

Great review!


Mou:  Fae of Heartfelt ARC I am out tooooo.....


message 6: by Vintage (new)

Vintage Bad H behavior.


message 7: by Kiki (new) - added it

Kiki I refuse to accept the blame that I’m too sensitive. I may be too sensitive, but in this case, I’m not. I’m asking for the bare minimum.


message 8: by Margo (new) - added it

Margo I read this at some point and remember thinking that it would have been such a strong indicator of poor character that he would have had to have a complete reformation where he went to volunteer in efforts providing clean water in emerging nations for five years in order to become worthy. (As a former Catholic, I come up with very specific penances.)


Melody Cox I know everyone has different opinions but I absolutely loved this book and it has become one of my top ten favorite books of all times.

We have to remember that he did go back to leave a tip and apologized for what Angelina had said. She told him he shouldn't be sorry because he wasn't the one who said it. That might not make it all okay but at least he did that and was sincere. There are not a lot of 20 and 21 year olds who would have handled that situation well.

The wealthy...is as much a part of life as the poor and the middle class. Do they act differently, yes! But it was also how they were raised. When you watch your parents act and live a certain way it becomes an example many children view as the way they should act as well. It sure isn't my station in life but I understand it can be others. There were ways my own mother behaved and convinced me it was the only right way. I was well up in years....like late thirties to forties that I realized what she was doing was wrong and it was hurting others and myself. It was that realization that immediately changed the way I viewed things. If I didn't believe or do as she did I was in for it...badly...even as an adult. You learn what you see and I was isolated and had very little to compare it to. I did wrong by following her example but had no idea it was wrong at the time.

That's just my two cents. I have read this ten times now and I could read it once a week and never grow bored.

I also must add that I did not see Ryan as being rude to the waiter or waitress. He was playing a game and had not lifted his head from it until he heard Danny's comeback as he was trying to avoid the ex girlfriend. I saw nothing wrong in that. They were just hanging and doing their own thing.

I will admit I am no longer a big fan of Sawyer Bennett's. She crossed some trigger lines in other books and I had to give her up.


message 10: by Kiki (new) - added it

Kiki I have already said what I have to regarding this. And I don’t think we’re going to agree on this at all. Let’s agree to disagree and end this here.


Melody Cox I wasn't attempting to change your mind at all but stated my opinion as you did yours. That's all.


message 12: by Kiki (new) - added it

Kiki “Everyone starts laughing hysterically, myself excluded. But I do give an inner smirk to myself and just shake my head. Angeline can dress someone down and make them feel about three inches tall in just a matter of seconds. It’s a true art form of the criminally wealthy and insanely narcissistic.”

Since we’re just exchanging opinions, I’d say in my opinion, he’s enjoying this plenty by his own admission. It doesn’t bother you, it bothers me a lot. Mileage varies. It’s ok.


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