miss daisy is in hospice care now.
the MITM, his brother and sister agreed with the doctors that this was the best move possible for her. she is unplugged and unpoked and un-prodded and now actively dying.. as she said while i was there, is the end near?
i did make her laugh again which is all i needed.
one other thing happened that made me know she knew exactly who i was...she told me she remembered my family. when we would go to the brain doctor we'd practice memory games...she'd name my coconut krewe and who they were married or engaged to. and then the puppies, ghostface killah and moxie. then she'd name her other grandchildren.
she married her first sweetheart and so did i.
she was 19 when she married and so was i.
she had 4 children and so did i.
she was an only child and so am i.
i could make her laugh and i did again tonight.
Oh honey, many hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteThe move to the hospice is an act of kindness and compassion. Being poked and prodded with wandering thought faculties must have been distressing for her.
Sharing a laugh is such a good thing for both of you.
Lots more hugs to you and MITM.
Hope the hospice can offer you lots of care and support as well as Miss Daisy.
ReplyDeleteBIG hugs
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A big warm hug for you and Miss Daisy! xxx
ReplyDeleteMiss Daisy is blessed with a loving family and especially a loving DIL.
ReplyDeleteWe can't ask for more as our days dwindle. God bless.
A kind and affectionate ending to a good life. So sorry, dearest, love to all of you.
ReplyDeleteThe last week or so I spent with my father before he passed away were the most powerful moments he and I ever spent together. When you're looking death in the face it is amazing how much can be exchanged just through simple conversation.
ReplyDeleteThat you could bring her joy is the best final gift you could give her.
Be strong, I'll be thiniking of you all.
How satisfying was that? Proving, once again, that money has nothing whatsoever to do with heart. And heart is what counts in life.
ReplyDeleteCourage, on all sides.
ReplyDeleteHugs, savannah...
Pearl
When one of my relatives was dying, what she most wanted was for us to make her laugh.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you.
We learn alot about other people and ourselves in times like this. Someone once said, "Dying is a part of living." Positive thoughts to all of your family.
ReplyDeletexoxoxoxoxoxox :¬)
ReplyDeleteOur mom die under hospice care but it went really quick for her by the time they got involved.
ReplyDeleteI consider a laugh one of the best gifts ever.
all the best
Many many hugs, Savannah. Your gift of laughter is probably the most wonderful gift anyone could give to Miss Daisy right now.
ReplyDeletexoxoxoxox
Awww that's sad but she's in the best place for rest and constant assistance. x
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that she has been clear of mind, and that you've been able to share laughter with her. Although a very difficult time indeed, the ability to die peacefully and with dignity is something that is sorely lacking in many places in our countries. Very big, warm hugs to you and your MITM and the coconut krewe. And most of all, to the indomitable Miss Daisy. xoxoxoxoxoxo
ReplyDeleteWishing Miss Daisy and you a few more laughs in the near future, Savvy.
ReplyDeleteA happy ending. Something we should all aspire to.
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Jules (The)
I like what my friend, a Hospice Volunteer coordinator, use to say. Hospice is not a dropping off place to die; it's a place to be comfortable and move on your journey at your own speed.
ReplyDeleteCalm seas and clear sailing, Miss Daisy.
Hugs to you and Krewe. :)
sending a hug, sister. you done good. xoxo
ReplyDeleteTo make her laugh is the greatest gift
ReplyDelete((hugs))
I understand. Sending much love, comfort and light, and wishes for a peaceful passage.
ReplyDeletesuch beautiful moments you and she share - both beautiful souls - thank you for sharing these stories with us - keeping you all in my caring thoughts! xxx
ReplyDeleteBless you, your family and Miss Daisy. Hospice people are angels who help our loved ones to leave in dignity and clarity. You're doing such an amazing job - being with her, talking, making her laugh. Our culture doesn't handle this part of the process very well.... the "joy" is removed because of the sadness and all of that will come .... later. For now, celebrate that woman. big love to you and your crew. xoxoxoxo
ReplyDeleteIt's good for her to be unplugged, unpoked and punprodded, isn't it? There's dignity in that.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry, sweetie.
Darlin', I'm damned sure that if Miss Daisy objected to being in a hospice facility, she woulda let y'all know pretty damn sharpish!
ReplyDeleteShe is truly blessed to have family that love, care & take the time to share the lighter moments.
Keep ya chin up darlin' - life is but a journey & methinks the Crewe know Miss Daisy has had an awesome ride. Much love & strength to y'all xoxoxox
I know I'm late. But hugs to you. You cherished. You can do no more.
ReplyDeletehank You all for your kind words of love and support. The MITM and I are most appreciate and love you all!
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