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The Finishing Project: Installment Four



Date Night

Tears in my chai.
We force connection
isn't so hard.




date night

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She keeps taking hits.
Her beauty fleets and shies.
Her jeans don't fit, her face scarred.
She weeps openly and freely, but they both know
[by jove, they have both learned
that as much as they both want to let him swoop in
and romance her back to a thin, young place]
That she must do the work.

She started with him in tandem, driving.
They progressed to one hand holding the seat, training wheels trepidatiously removed.
But still, he was there,
Ready in an instant to shatter the facade of her independence,
If she should need it.

She's now scared;
It's time to take a spin around the cul-de-sac
And she knows he'll let go.
And she knows that the faster and more steady she becomes,
the less she'll notice.

She is guilty of relying lazily on his perfect balance,
his stalwart legs.

Out of love and hate,
with tears washing her face
she man ups.
Does it solo.
Tries not to look back.
Tries like hell to make him proud.

One night, she tells him over a bottle of wine how she's loosing ground.
And needs him to put the safety back on.

He whispered in her ear as they fall asleep,
"How did I ever find you?"

And the words, like caresses and deep breaths,
Wash her cells, her sad blood, anew.
And even if she had to swallow the fierce pain of dependence,
decides that tonight, just one night
she can borrow his vision again.

She slumbers to visions of ribbons flying free on the handlebars and eyes closed in belief and bliss.

Without the good, good love from another human, we cannot love ourselves.
It's not your fault.



the perfect setting



We had just returned from a fabulous dinner at Bizzarro and from watching "Midnight in Paris" (which we adored! go see it!).  We came home to whip up some sort of mouse or custard, but instead became distracted by the delicious Barbara we bought on the way home, and the perfect setting on my camera to capture candlelight and sunset.  Forgive the slew of pictures; I simply had to share.

summer dates


Dinner

Every Wednesday, Joel and I meet at our local farmer's market.  It's only a few blocks from the house, and a quick bus ride home from work for him.  I always walk up to find him leaning against a tree in the shade, reading something on his phone.  I sit on his lap and hug him for as long as he'll let me (he's usually hot from walking from the bus in work attire), which is actually rather long.  After we catch up on the day's goings on, we meander over to the market and pick up a bit of produce.  This week it was 2 heads of califlour, 1 bunch of kale, 1 bunch of rainbow chard, 1 pint of strawberries (the SWEETEST I've tasted in my life as yet), and 1 pint of raspberries.  Once we've satisfied our produce needs, we decide on an early dinner of veggie quesadillas.  This guy LOADS the quesadilla with a ton of these awesome sauteed vegetables.  Joel has spoken of little else since we began this Wednesday night tradition.  In fact, he has been known to order a bowl of only the sauteed veggies.  Such a rabbit!

Our Farmer's Market Dates
Veggie Quesadilla
Berries!!

Summer dates are so nutritious!
 


a date to daydream

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cozythe living
grandmother's lamp

There are evenings when we decide that the very best thing for our preoccupied and exhausted minds is to take a night off from allowing media to distract us from fatigue
and instead decide to indulge in the pleasure and practice of
daydreaming.

We leaf through our collectible books, maybe reading, maybe not.
We sip hot tea and speak freely of
lofty insignificance.

I'm teaching myself to be free of cares.
And he
as always
is right by my side.

To frivolity, boredom, and pretty books,

the weekend that dreams are made of



My lover and I keep having these "is this seriously our life?!" weekends.  
We are relishing every little morsel.

Friday night, Joel told me to "dress for dinner."  He then made up some delicious Cuban sandwiches, poured a nice bottle of Bordeaux, and sat me down in my Sunday best to watch all 10 hours of the Royal Wedding coverage he downloaded from the BBC.  (Four days later, we aren't even through the ceremony).  We took a break mid-way to step out for a delicious bit of bread pudding and nip of whiskey.  Silly though it was (and rather impractical to eat a messy sandwich while dressed up), it was a very important time of connection for us both. When did adults stop playing pretend?



Saturday we decided to walk to the Farmer's Market for some produce and meat to grill.  Joel has been ALL about his grill lately, and so we found a dozen fresh oysters and some lamb chops.  While walking home, we ducked into a coffee shop for a quick Americano and game of Farkle (one of our newest date obsessions).  After a few hours, lunch called us to the Village Sushi, just down the street.

farkle on the phone


Chirachi Bowl at Village Sushi
Frozen Yogurt at Greenlake

Off to the hardware store and a quick stop for another of our latest obsessions, fro yo!

Once home, the sunshine seduced us outside and we finally attended to the herb garden we've been trying to plant all spring.  A few hours (and very stiff legs) later, we had our humble garden of cilantro, Italian parsley, mint, and chervil.  While I finished up the gardening, Joel BBQ's the oysters and we enjoyed the rest of the evening with friends.







BBQ Oysters with Cilantro and Louisiana Hot Sauce



I' faith, I myself enjoyed it a bit too much, and spent the night and next day paying for it.  Sunday we spent recovering from my booze intake.  We drove to Joel's parents and picnicked on their lawn for a few hours, soaking up the sunshine, resting, and talking.

There are Mondays when I feel refreshed and ready to take on the tasks of the work week, but friends - I tell you, today I am wishing for an extension of my weekend something awful.  What would I do, you ask?  Just as Joel asswered last night when I asked him..."spend more time with you."

my family

One of the things I've really come to appreciate about Joel is not only his unwavering work ethic (he loves hard work!), but also his ability to rest when necessary (it IS a skill to be learned).  These traits do not often come packaged together in a male, and I need both from him so desperately.  He's my closest friend and I still thank my lucky stars every single day for the promise of a lifetime with such a kind, intelligent, sexy, wise, and persevering soul. 

Not to mention, I really like his bod.

Swoon.

Back to the grind.