An Invincible Summer - A Woman's Journey

Replace expectations with healthy boundaries and life gets much more peaceful. Easier said than done. I made a mistake and was disappointed because of expecting someone to do what I considered the right thing. Well, disappointed is probably a little bit of an understatement. Resentment is a far better word for what I am feeling right now. Al-Anon gave me a tool for this...it's in my box but my ego got in the way. It said to me, "You do all this; therefore, this person will put a similar effort in on their part." Big no no! If I am doing something with the expectation of something in return then my motives are skewed.  The better way for me to handle this is to figure out what I can and cannot live with and what I am able to give freely without needing something in return and then just do so. Unfortunately, this means cutting back on doing things I love or doing a lot more things alone. It kinda sucks because I spent a long time doing a whole bunch of t...

Just because we acquire a large tool box and fill it up doesn't mean we open it when we should. It sure doesn't mean that we find the right tool the first time round. Sometimes it feels like using the tools requires a certain lack of caring. They call it detachment but detachment is a really tough job! Detachment says, "I love you, care for your well being, need your love and affection but know I can't or won't or shouldn't even try to change this situation, therefore I will let it go....give it to my Higher Power. The letting go part goes against my entire being. My heart screams advance, make changes, do your best to affect the outcome. It says protect yourself at any costs. My brain knows that it is self sabotage and results in alienation, broken relationships and robs people of their dignity, but getting my heart to shut the hell up is a difficult thing. It's a new day, so.... Just For Today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust...