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Happy or Angry?

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Do you want to be angry or do you want to be happy. The two cannot go hand in hand but both are a choice.  Are you pissed off sitting in traffic? You have a choice. Are you mad at someone being inconsiderate? That's a choice too. Learning to respond instead of react is helpful but much harder than it sounds, especially if that has been a default for most of your life. My default at even small conflicts has been to fight or run away for as long as I can remember. That was all I knew.  There are so many good reasons to control anger. Yes, it is an  obstacle to happiness , but also  damages relationships , loses jobs, can result in people or property getting hurt and, in the end, anger will hurt you too.  Taking a breath, a time out or whatever you need to stop the initial reaction and allow your thoughts to follow things through to the end. What exactly to do you want the outcome to be? Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Do you ...

Thanksgiving Again

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Nothing has really changed since yesterday but my attitude sure has. Today I feel resentful and bummed.  It all started with a text from sister #2.           "Hi, when and where are we doing thanksgiving & Xmas this year." Well, we do Xmas the same place every year, at sister #3's. Thanksgiving was mine and I loved every minute of it. But that was then....now I live in a house that is really too small for the people living in it.  My 800 sq. ft. and single bathroom will not accommodate an excess of 25 additional members of extended family. I miss my old house and my beautiful yard a bunch. Truth is, before I received the text, I knew it wasn't going to happen.  Seeing it put in writing hurt much more than I thought it would though. I'm angry and hurting and feeling less than grateful right now.  When does the bleeding stop? In a day, an hour or 10 minutes.....whenever I am able to put my grateful back on and move forward. I'm n...