TBT: The Mews love me individually even if Lori and Taz don't get along, and I am thankful for that. I am thankful for each, invidivually. And of course Marley has always been an easy-going cat.
But today I write in praise of Binq. As friendly and forward as she was in the Shelter Community Room, she was shy and "hidden" when she arrived here last November. She was nervous around the others at mealtime, ate her food fast and went back to The Mews Room immediately for a couple months.
Trying to pet or stroke her made her back away. She used the litterboxes only if she was alone. She wouldn't play with toys. She just wanted to stay by herself. She would never enter the bedroom.
I didn't let Taz or Binq outside until Spring. I put Taz out on the deck in a carrier to let him get used to smells and sounds for about 20 minutes several times. Binq is hard to get into a carrier (sensitive to tummy touching) so I didn't even try that with her. But I left the deck door open (screen closed) so that she could sniff (with Taz enclosed in the bedroom).
I couldn't get a harness to stay on either of them. A few days of Taz out in the carrier and Binq happy to just sniff through the screen, and I let Taz out and dragged Binq out.
Taz went right down to the lawn and started sniffing stuff!
Binq just wanted to get back inside...
And for a couple of months, the most "out" she would do was to sit on the deck next to the door waiting to be allowed back in. But she has changed in many way since then. Somewhere in the past several months, she has discovered "courage"!
She likes my attention and responds energetically to petting (spinning around, pushing her head against my hand, and sing on the arm of the TV chair next to me). She has become a rather fanatical toy-chaser (even pulling some out of a box to bat all around the house). She rushes to go out on the deck along with Lori and Taz (Marley always wants to look and listen first). She still isn't fond of going down to the lawn, but she loves "out on the deck". I have seen her on the lawn at the base of the deck stairs a couple of times.
She is becoming more confident around the house and is often in the same room as me. She uses a litterbox even if I am nearby. She is no longer anxious about eating with the others. Indeed, when I lift the food bowls from the counter, she sits up and waves her paws in anticipation. And she noses into everyone else's bowl too if I don't stand there and manage the meals!
My experience has been with young cats who develop adult cat behavior in a rather gradual and linear way. Binq has not been like that. It seems to me that she rather suddenly became comfortable here in the last few months and has expressed that change positively.
She still isn't fully engaged like Ayla, Iza, Marley, and Lori. They were "normal" cats in all ways from Day 1. Taz was close to that. This change in Binq comes after months of self-isolation.
And I am very thankful for it.