Showing posts with label Jamey Rodemeyer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jamey Rodemeyer. Show all posts

Monday, December 05, 2011

The School "Sanctions" The Bullies

Jamey Rodemeyer

Even though the Amherst police department closed their criminal investigation into the bullying case of Jamey Rodemeyer--which ended with Jamey taking his own life--the Williamsville Central School District has suspended some North High School students who had bullied the young man.
Amherst Police Chief John C. Askey revealed that his department's investigation turned up five incidents of alleged bullying at Williamsville North involving Jamey Rodemeyer, but admitted that none of the incidents at North High were brought to the school's attention, or to Jamey's parents' attention, until after Jamey's suicide.
Superintendent Scott Martzloff said, "[The police] shared some information with us, and we followed up. We We made the determination to take disciplinary action." Martzloff did not say how many students had been suspended for their part in bullying Jamey, but it's likely that several of Jamey's classmates were sanctioned. Martzloff did say some of the students faced "a minimum of suspensions"--from a short-term  suspension of up to five days to long-term suspensions subject to a hearing. Expulsion is not an option for students of this age.
The district based its disciplinary actions on the Amherst Police Department's incident findings, which include: 

  • A witness said one female classmate who had known Jamey since middle school told Jamey something along the lines of, "Faggot, why don't you just kill yourself?" This student's family hired a lawyer shortly after she was questioned by police.
  • In a separate incident, the same student later told Jamey something like, "You're a faggot."
  • Another identified student pushed Jamey as he passed him in the hallway and called him a fag.
  • Yet another identified student made "an inappropriate comment" to Jamey regarding his sexual orientation, Askey said.

In September, before the conclusion of the police investigation, and the sanctions imposed by the school district, a female student was suspended for telling friends of Jamey's sister, Alyssa, that she was glad Jamey was dead. The same student was referenced in at least two of the bullying incidents involving Jamey that police investigated.
When will people learn? When will parents step up? Who raises a child that could look at another human being and tell them they';re glad someone is dead?
I'm happy these students were sanctioned, though i wish they'd been eligible to be expelled. I wish they had been expelled and sent to another school, and forced to feel different and new and maybe a little afraid. Maybe them they'd feel an iota of what they did to Jamey Rodemeyer every single day of his life until he killed himself. maybe then, they'd understand.
But then, I'm a dreamer.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Will There Be Criminal Charges For Jamey Rodemeyer's "Anonymous" Bullies?

The Amherst Police Department's Special Victims Unit in Buffalo, New York, have opened a criminal investigation in the suicide death of 14-year-old Jamey Rodemeyer, who was bullied online with gay slurs for more than a year.

He endured that for a year. Imagine yourself being taunted and teased and threatened for a year. Seriously. Imagine it. Now imagine you're fourteen.

The Amherst Police Department's SVU said it will determine whether to charge some students with harassment, cyber-harassment or hate crimes, saying that three students in particular might have been involved. Currently, there are no bullying laws in New York State, so police would have to determine whether aggravated harassment charges fit this case.

Imagine. You're fourteen, and thinking, feeling, wondering, questioning, your sexual orientation, and having to listen to the taunts and teases for years.

Some students posted anonymous messages on Jamey's Mindspring account, a website that allows anonymous posts:
"JAMIE IS STUPID, GAY, FAT ANND [sic] UGLY. HE MUST DIE!"
"I wouldn't care if you died. No one would. So just do it :) It would make everyone WAY more happier!"

Imagine you're fourteen and that's what people are saying to you. Every.Single.Day.

Every.Single.Day. And, though friends reported the bullying incidences to guidance counselors, everyone, including his mother, thought Jamey had grown stronger. But how do you grow stronger when this happens to you every single day. How do you 'get over it' or 'move on'?

Friends described him as caring and friendly, and he had been seeking help from a social worker and therapist. his own mother, who knew her son was questioning his sexual orientation, thought he'd grown stronger.

Until enough was too much.

In May, after coming out to friends, Jamey posted a YouTube video on the new online site, It Gets Better Project, which provides testimony from adults and celebrities to reassure troubled and potentially suicidal LGBT youth that life improves as they get older, saying, "Love yourself and you're set. ... I promise you, it will get better."

Sadly, for Jamey, it didn't. 

And now, hopefully, the police will find those 'anonymous' people who have nothing better to do than taunt and torment a young boy, and punish them. And hopefully parents and schools and school officials and law enforcement will begin to realize this isn't just fun that kids do. It isn't a game. Games don't end up with someone dead.

On Facebook, Jamey posted: "I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens. ... What do I have to do so people will listen to me? No one in my school cares about preventing suicide, while you're the ones calling me [gay slur] and tearing me down."

One of his last posts were the lyrics to a song by Hollywood Undead:
"I just wanna say good bye, disappear with no one knowing. ... I don't wanna live this lie, smiling to the world unknowing."

Hopefully, with the police involved, there will be justice for Jamey Rodemeyer, and hopefully, no one will have to endure bullying because of who they are, or who they love, or the color of their skin, their faith, or anything.


Hopefully, bullying will soon die out.


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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Another One: Jamey Rodemeyer


Jamey Rodemeyer was just fourteen, and already the victim of bullying and harassment. But it looked like Jamey was going to survive the taunts and the teases; he even created his own 'It Gets Better' YouTube video, in which he said, in part, “That's all you have to do. Just love yourself and you're set. And I promise you, it'll get better.”

Sadly, for Jamey, it didn't get better.

Jamey Rodemeyer took his life this past Sunday, his parents discovering his body after returning from a weekend camping trip.

Tracy Rodemeyer, Jamey's mother, says he was always taunted and teased and bullied because of his sexuality: "So he hung around with the girls a lot, so then the teasing started happening like 'Oh you're such a girl or you're gay or whatever and that bothered him for many years."

Jamey’s father Tim Rodemeyer said, "To the kids who are bullying they have to realize that words are very powerful and what you think is just fun and games isn't to some people, and you are destroying a lot of lives."

It isn't just a game. it isn't just kids being kids, because kids being kids doesn't usually end up with one of the kids taking his or her own life.

It has to stop. The kids who are being bullied need to stand up and speak up to their parents and teachers about what's being done to them "all in good fun." And parents need to take this seriously; your kids are literally being bullied to death. this is not a joke, or a rite of passage. Bullying = Death.

And the schools, all schools everywhere, need to adopt, and enforce, a Zero Tolerance Policy on bullying. You bully a student, you're suspense. Do it again, you're out.

This has to stop. How do we let a young man like this take his own life? Why do we let it happen?



If you know of someone who is being bullied, or if you are the victim of bullying, there are plenty of places to seek help:

The Trevor Project 24/7 Suicide Hotline for GLBTQI Youth
1-866-4-U-Trevor 
www.thetrevorproject.org
USA National Suicide Prevention Hotline 24/7, Free & Confidential 
1-800-SUICIDE 
1-800-273-Talk
How to Get Help from Bullies? 
www.StopBullying.gov

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