Quote Of The Day: Jerry Sanders

Sometimes I find it hard to believe that I came so close to making the wrong decision, and to endorsing government-sanctioned discrimination. As it turns out, I was reelected to a second term the next year. My position on marriage equality definitely made it more difficult. But I know I would have regretted vetoing that resolution a lot more than losing that election.
Now, more than two years later, I have testified in federal court about my decision and the rationale behind it. I told the court that, as someone who has spent most of his lifetime in public service, I understand that when government tolerates discrimination against any class of people, it makes it easier for citizens to do the same thing.
I was proud that Lisa was in court with me, along with her wife, Meaghan, whom she married in Vermont last month. Meaghan is like another daughter to me, and she has brought great happiness into our family.
The defendants in this case -- those who would deny equal rights to others -- would like us to believe that they are the true victims of discrimination. They argue that their opposition to marriage equality has made them targets of violence. They've made this argument as their excuse for withholding documents from the public, and it is as self-serving as it is inaccurate.
From my own experience as a police officer and mayor, I can say that the overwhelming evidence is that violence is directed against gays and lesbians, not those who would deny them equality.
San Diego Mayor Jerry Sanders talking about testifying in the Prop H8 case

What Happens When Discrimination Hits Home: Jerry Sanders' Story

Jerry Sanders is the mayor of San Diego, California, and to hear those wingnuts at NOM--yes, I'm talking to you, Maggie Gallagher--he is solely responsible for marriage equality becoming, briefly, law in California.

See, back in the day, Jerry was big time anti-gay. He was vehemently against same-sex marriage for ever until.....you guessed it....his daughter came out as a lesbian and Jerry saw, firsthand, in his own family, what discrimination can do.

Jerry Sanders testified this week in the Perry v. Schwarzenegger case, the federal court case challenging the constitutionality of Prop H8.

Sanders told Judge Walker how his position on marriage equality evolved over time. He went from thinking Civil Unions were good enough, but once his daughter came out, he saw that separate institutions doesn't equal equality.

"If the government tolerates discrimination against anyone for any reason, it becomes an excuse for the public to do exactly the same thing," Sanders said, and that by not supporting marriage equality, "I was discriminating against even my own daughter."

And Jerry Sanders may be on the leading edge of change, there is evidence that many more conservatives are now leaning toward acceptance of equality. Seriously. In cases of people like Jerry Sanders it because he saw discrimination up close, aimed directly at his own child. For Ted Olson, it wasn't because of a gay family member, it was because of how he viewed the issue of marriage. Olson believes, and rightly so, that conservatives should embrace gay marriage, since marriage as an institution provides stability, creates community, and encourages others to place the interest of someone else before their own.

I remember having the discussion with my own parents many years ago. They, too, believed that a civil union should be enough, but when I explained to them that it seemed highly unfair that my sister could--and did--get married--and married [sorry, sis, I went for the joke], and my brother could--and did--get married, then it was simple discrimination against me for my sexual orientation that I couldn't get married.

I think that's how change will come.

Getting people to stop listening to the lies of people like Maggie Gallagher, who uses fear and hate to maintain the status quo, but to simply speak our truth.

Discrimination is wrong.

Marriage equality doesn't lead to people marrying their relatives or their dogs; it won't lead to polygamy; it won't lead to children being indoctrinated; it won't lead to churches being punished.

It will simply lead to fairness.